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He Wants Affair
- By Miss Emily
- Published 08/2/2010
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Dear Miss Emily:
I'm 38 and been married for 5 years. Although I love my wife, I have recently made friends with a much younger woman (21) who I'm head over heels for. I sincerely feel we're perfect for each other. I do not know if she feels the same way or dare to push things too much. What can I do?
---------------------------------Ask Miss Emily-----------------------------
The only way I would sanction a try with this 21 year-old is if you had nothing to lose. That would mean you simply feel you made a mistake by marrying your wife, your so-called love for her is tepid, at best -- and if she found out about a girlfriend, you wouldn't care if she were hurt and read you the riot act, defamed you to others (both families) and wanted a divorce. Affairs are usually detected by the spouse. The man or woman involved in an affair starts behaving differently -- cleans up, loses weight, or starts an exercise program (perhaps you're already fit), is M I A, at times, and those cell phone calls are ignored, or taken outside. Demands are made, and the candle is burned at both ends. You get my point. Again, the risks are the repercussions of being exposed and your 21 year-old (if she were to get involved with you) dumping you because of it, or she found someone else -- as 21 year-old girls are prone to do. Of course, I can't make a decision for you -- I can only point out the pitfalls, and they are many. If things aren't going well at home, I'd try marriage counseling before I leaped into this potential mine field.
I'm 38 and been married for 5 years. Although I love my wife, I have recently made friends with a much younger woman (21) who I'm head over heels for. I sincerely feel we're perfect for each other. I do not know if she feels the same way or dare to push things too much. What can I do?
---------------------------------Ask Miss Emily-----------------------------
The only way I would sanction a try with this 21 year-old is if you had nothing to lose. That would mean you simply feel you made a mistake by marrying your wife, your so-called love for her is tepid, at best -- and if she found out about a girlfriend, you wouldn't care if she were hurt and read you the riot act, defamed you to others (both families) and wanted a divorce. Affairs are usually detected by the spouse. The man or woman involved in an affair starts behaving differently -- cleans up, loses weight, or starts an exercise program (perhaps you're already fit), is M I A, at times, and those cell phone calls are ignored, or taken outside. Demands are made, and the candle is burned at both ends. You get my point. Again, the risks are the repercussions of being exposed and your 21 year-old (if she were to get involved with you) dumping you because of it, or she found someone else -- as 21 year-old girls are prone to do. Of course, I can't make a decision for you -- I can only point out the pitfalls, and they are many. If things aren't going well at home, I'd try marriage counseling before I leaped into this potential mine field.
