Dear Miss Emily:

My husband's ex-girlfriend, whom I have never even met, has e-mailed my husband saying I am doing something she feels obligated to tell him about. She said she only wants to tell him in person.  I am not doing anything, have not, would not ever do anything to hurt my husband.  We have been married almost two years now.  I feel like crap because my husband just has this fear now in the back of his mind.  I told him she should say what she has to say in front of both of us.  What should we do?

--------------------------Miss Emily's advice-------------------

I like your idea. You should be able to face your accuser -- but, honestly, you shouldn't have to do anything at all. Who knows what her motivation is for contacting him with this outrageous claim. Maybe she's someone who's been misinformed, or she's just plain lonely and trying to cause trouble. My heart goes out to you, because you didn't ask for this and, yet, it forces you to address it as long as your husband is now fearful something is wrong. If he were truly honorable, in this matter, he'd tell his ex to back off, and trust his wife -- because you've given him no reason to doubt you. Men can be so gullible .