I am a happily about to marry my fiance who I have a very healthy, very satisfying sex life with, but I have an issue that needs to be addressed before I marry this man. I want to have sex with other men. I don't want to date or form a relationship with anyone else, as I truly do love my husband-to-be. But when I see a man I find attractive, I can't help but fantasize about having sex with him. I've considered telling my fiance, and have even playfully mentioned it before but he cannot understand why I would want to sleep with other men. I'm not sure I even understand why. I cannot imagine my life without this man, and do not want to cheat on him or hurt him in anyway, but it's getting harder and harder to suppress these urges.

-----------------------------------Miss Emily's advice------------------------

There's only one way to deal with this and it's to face it head-on. You've already laid out a plan for a train wreck. If your fiance were to say, when you playfully told him about your urge to have sex with other men, "Gee, honey, I'm on board with that!" you wouldn't have a problem. But he didn't say that, and if you were to marry him your urge to have sex with other men may very well be realized. I'd get to a therapist, pronto, to iron this out before you say "I do." If you can't afford a therapist, you need to be honest with your fiance, now, in order for him to decide if he wants to marry you under these conditions. Otherwise, you are playing with fire and your husband to be -- and you -- will get burned.