I have been with my boyfriend for 4 years, and I think him and his older sister are too close. They text each other every day, all day. She calls him daily, they go for dinner once a week (sometimes more), and they even go on week-end trips away just the two of them. They even have movie nights where they stay at his place watch movies, order in food and then she will sleep over. I never said anything although i always felt it was a bit weird. Recently, when we went away for the weekend, she texted the entire time asking him to buy her a present and just was being a pain. The worst part was we were having a romantic dinner and he was texting her back during dinner!! And he frantically tried to find her a nice gift while we were away to the point that he left me alone to find it. I am not sure if this matters but he is 28 and she is 30 years old, so they are both adults. Should I say something? It is getting to the point where I am starting to resent her since she is like his other girlfriend.

---------------------------------------------------Ask Miss Emily-----------------------------------------

Absolutely say something to him -- and it's long overdue. His reaction to what you say will speak volumes. She's obviously his best friend, but that's a position you should hold. A boyfriend of four years should have his priorities straight, and he doesn't. I'm not suggesting they have anything more than a close-knit relationship, but if he did agree to back-off (and I doubt he would), she could take offense and make your life a living hell -- and he would probably let it happen because she seems to have a great deal of control over him. So be it. At least you know where you stand in this relationship, and better to set him free than suffer playing second fiddle to a brother-and-sister act that will never allow you to be first string.