Dear Miss Emily:

I have been in a relationship with my gf for about 2 years but i feel it's unfair at times because she wants to win all the time. Example: if an incident happened, she wants to be the winner and will argue with me if she is losing. She is high in ego and also very stubborn. Hardly she listens to me and think she is very great and perfect. I have been tolerating with her for this past 2 years, but i feel like a loser all the time. I cant share my feelings with her because it will end up in fight. She also can't control her temper and will react very rudely, not only with me but also to the family members. She is pretty, but beauty doesn't mean everything! I am going through this situation almost everyday and i feel fed up with it. I really need an advice on how to change her attitude to be a better person in life and being polite to everyone.  Please help me. I'm 27, she's 21.

--------------------------------------Miss Emily's advice----------------------------

She won't change unless she sees the error of her ways. I don't know if you have the guts to do this (because they have been lacking up until now), but I see no way to get your point across other than to tell her you are over it  -- and want a break from the relationship to better evaluate why you are with someone who does not respect your opinion, has anger issues, and treats those around her no better than pond scum. And be firm about it! You see, she gets away with bad behavior because people allow it. You may get frustrated and tell her so, but there are no adverse repercussions to the abuse she dishes out if you continue to stick around despite your modest rebellion. She may never change her attitude, no matter what you do, because some people will use their strong defense mechanisms to fight to the bitter end and will blame others because they "just don't get it." All this said, the longer you stay in this relationship, the less you'll feel like a man. No one respects someone who can be pushed around -- and that includes the person who's getting away with it.  If she bitches and moans, tell her to tweet Lindsay Lohan about it!