Dear Miss Emily:
I've been in love with this guy for
two years, and he now lives in my house. We have regular sexual contact
but he has made it clear he does not want a relationship, Although we
enjoy our time together and don't like being apart too long. He has never
kissed me, and i don't think he ever will. He knows it hurts me badly, but
still won't. Is he just using me?
------------------------------Miss Emily's advice--------------------------
I have a tendency to think that someone can't be used unless that
person allows it. Of course, many of us have that component within us which says,
"If only I hang in there, I'll get what I want." But this guy has made
it clear this is nothing more than a "friends with benefits" relationship and has neither the inclination to change that, or the
capability to do so. Not kissing you is his attempt to avoid passion being attached to the other sexual activity. If that doesn't tell you how he truly
feels, nothing will.