Dear Emily:

  
I'm male, and I recently started a relationship with a guy and I'm crazy for him -- but whenever he wants to meet up and hang, I end up waiting a half hour and then he says he has somewhere to be and it hurts my feelings. What should i do?

-----------------------------------------------Miss Emily's advice-----------------------------------------



To use a time-honored phrase, tell him "Shape up, or ship out!" You may be crazy about him, but he's not crazy about you -- or he's simply dysfunctional and wouldn't know what following through meant even if his flaky little life depended on it. That said, I'm inclined to think he thinks only of himself -- and you when the rare occasion strikes.