My partner and i have been together for 5 years now we are engaged and live together, we don't have a great deal of sex and i don't know why? He recently told me that he has been watching a lot of porn over the past couple of months and can't stop.. so much so it isn't doing anything for him anymore and then he got upset... as he has been searching online for a release elsewere.. in chatrooms and even on cam. It worries me as i feel a bit like i can't trust him even though he told me he hasnt been with anyone else and wouldnt ever do that as he knows what it feels like to be cheated on..I can understand his urges, but i just dont know what to do. He knows i am understanding and can talk to me about anything --like being more adventurous or whatever. He wants to be with me, but i dont know what to say to him about his problem or what to do. I don't want to leave him as i love him to pieces and he says he does me, too, after crying for a while.

---------------------------------------------------Miss Emily's advice---------------------------------------

Well, you're not his sister with whom he's confiding -- you're his fiancee! That means, this is affecting your life, and your future with him if he doesn't get a handle on this situation. I understand that porn is easily accessible these days, and curiosity can become an obsession with some men. But it is a problem, and it's not going to go away until he's willing to seriously address it. I think he needs some therapy concerning this, because if he's crying about it there's some deep-seated guilt he may be dealing with. Get on it, now. Make sure he has an appointment set up, and you should be willing to go with him if that's protocol. You don't want to marry a man who doesn't have this worked out before the wedding, no matter you loving him to pieces. Sometimes love just isn't enough to carry the day.