Dear Miss Emily:

I'm currently with this guy named "Jim" and I love him. But he's cheated on me before, a lot. But the rest of the time hes just soo sweet. But today I went to the pool and saw my ex boyfriend of 11 months. I felt something with him. It's almost like it's love even though he's 16, and I'm 12. And I know u think I'm to young to "love" anybody, but really love has nothing to do with age!  My ex asked me out, and I said yes. but I'm still dating "Jim" who's 14. Both guys know each other and hate each other! "Jim" tells me my ex just wants me so he can have sex with me and when I tell him, "NO!" he'll break up with me. And I just need some help, I can't let go of "Jim" I love him but I love my ex too. Help!

---------------------------------Miss Emily's advice---------------------------

I'm not crazy about either guy since your current boyfriend cheated on you, and the sixteen year-old seems to be someone who probably might think sex with you is an option given his age. Of course, you can say no, and I hope you truly believe that. Teens, at your age, have a tendency to be pretty fickle, so I cut a lot of slack on the "cheating" issue as long as it's more or less flirting and not repeated lying and cheating -- and that would mean meeting other girls and having some physical contact and deceiving you. If "Jim" seems loyal, now, despite his past indiscretions (if they are minor), I'd stick with him, because a sixteen year-old guy will probably become bored with a twelve year-old, despite your past with him, easier than your current boyfriend. That said, there are no guarantees either relationship will work out given the difficulties surrounding them.