I am a teenager and I'm sure you'll say that you shouldn't get so attached, but I do love my boyfriend to pieces. His mother is extremely controlling because there was a recent incident where she basically went insane and my boyfriend and his sister were sent to their dad's. So now he's back with his mother who won't drive me, won't let their grandmother drive me and she doesn't want to meet me even though we met before this incident. I don't know what to do; she basically doesn't want her son to see me. She even went to the point of telling my boyfriend that she doesn't think our relationship will last and that it will end soon. I don't like it that his mother seems to hate me but I frankly don't like her. How do I deal with this situation without breaking up with him?

------------------------------------------------Miss Emily's advice-------------------------------------


I won't tell you that you shouldn't love your boyfriend to pieces, it's just a shame because his mother wants him to drop you into pieces! She seems unstable, emotionally, and although her protest concerning you is unjust, this woman is still his mother. She may think he's too young to have a girlfriend, or get serious and, therefore, no girlfriend of his would be acceptable. It really does promote sneaking behind her back, but if she's as controlling as you say she is, she'll probably find out and go ballistic -- back to Dad's house! This isn't what you want to hear, but I think your hands are tied -- and there's nothing you can do unless he can make some headway with his mother and convince her to give you a chance. That seems unlikely based on her irrational thinking. More than feeling sorry for you, I feel extremely sorry for him. For now, be his friend and maybe something will change down the line -- but I wouldn't hold my breath waiting for it.