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Tips On Breaking Up
- By Miss Emily
- Published 07/4/2010
- Relationships - Women
Dear Miss Emily:
Me and this guy have been pretty steady for a while. But I wanna break up. How would I do that?
------------------------------Miss Emily's advice--------------------------
This is one of the questions I get asked a lot. And there really is only three ways to go about it: lie; put up with a losing relationship; tell the truth. In my opinion, lying is gutless, putting up with a losing relationship is weak (therefore, gutless) and telling the truth is the easiest way to get on with your life. It doesn't have to be a vicious attack on his character, or a story that makes you look like you're doing something wrong. There's nothing to feel guilty about. It's your life, and you have a right to live it how you see fit! If you are uncomfortable with telling him "I'm not feeling it any longer," simply tell him you want a break for a while in order to see how you feel about the relationship -- to give you some clarity. Of course, he'll probably say, " You don't love me anymore?" And you say, I don't know, and that's why I need the space. Set a time limit -- a couple of weeks -- and when it's time to talk, again, about the relationship (and if you still feel the same way), you tell him you've decided to make the break permanent.
Me and this guy have been pretty steady for a while. But I wanna break up. How would I do that?
------------------------------Miss Emily's advice--------------------------
This is one of the questions I get asked a lot. And there really is only three ways to go about it: lie; put up with a losing relationship; tell the truth. In my opinion, lying is gutless, putting up with a losing relationship is weak (therefore, gutless) and telling the truth is the easiest way to get on with your life. It doesn't have to be a vicious attack on his character, or a story that makes you look like you're doing something wrong. There's nothing to feel guilty about. It's your life, and you have a right to live it how you see fit! If you are uncomfortable with telling him "I'm not feeling it any longer," simply tell him you want a break for a while in order to see how you feel about the relationship -- to give you some clarity. Of course, he'll probably say, " You don't love me anymore?" And you say, I don't know, and that's why I need the space. Set a time limit -- a couple of weeks -- and when it's time to talk, again, about the relationship (and if you still feel the same way), you tell him you've decided to make the break permanent.
