Dear Miss Emily:

About 6 months ago I was introduced to a very wonderful guy. We hit off well and around May we decided to officially be a couple. However, going on 7 months now I've been umployed and have been increasingly depressed about it.
While my new guy is great I don't seem to want to spend a lot of time with him. When I'm in his company he makes me feel wonderful about myself and I no longer feel depressed but I keep having an urge to just get away from him.
He keeps hinting at things like maybe moving in together next year which sounds wonderful but at the same time I'd rather live alone or with one of my friends who is never going to be around. There are times when I'm just head-over-heels for him and other times when I just want him to go away. Is this because being unemployed has gotten me so down, or is it just my emotions telling me he's not "the one" and maybe I should move on before I really hurt him?

----------------------------Miss Emily's advice-------------------------

I do know this, depression can color our life experiences in shades of gray. Depression can also make someone want to be alone because he or she feels the added weight of "not measuring up" when those around them seem to be doing fine. Have you seen a doctor, and have you tried an anti-depressant? Sometimes a brief period on them can help with clarity. Depression issues need to be addressed in order to keep from sliding into that zone of wanting to be in total isolation. I'm not saying that your boyfriend is the one for you, but I also think you are on to something when  you believe the depression over the lack of finding a job has put you into a psychological area that keeps you from finding the truth in this relationship.