I recently met a man on a dating site (not my usual route i want to say). he is 35, very independent, has his own place, full time job, car, etc. is looking in to buying a house, and seems pretty self-sufficient. On our sites, we both specified long term wants. We talked on the phone, and seemed to share the same goals and wants in life. We get along great, and have allot in common. The biggest hang up we have is his job. he works for a distribution center, 12-14 hours a day, five days a week. So we don't get to talk or hang out much. On the weekends, he goes to visit his mother, who is sick and not doing well and needs help around the house. At first he would at least text me every couple of days, just to keep in touch. the past two weeks, it has become less and less. i went almost a week without hearing from him, two from seeing him. i attempted to make plans, but he blew me off and never contacted me to tell me why. Ive tried to have patience with him, as he said the!
y were rearranging schedules at work, so everyone could get out earlier. naturally i have been frustrated, and told him that i wasn't sure it was going to work out. not being able to see/talk to him is too difficult. He was quite upset, asking me if there was someone else, and that he had lost good friends and potential relationships because of his job. he said he wanted to find a new one because he really was interested in me. I decided to try and stick it out a bit longer. we hung out yesterday briefly. He announced that he had changed positions at work and would now be getting out at 3pm, and was very excited about it. i had kind of hoped i might hear from him today, but nothing. i am not sure if this job change will help, i just don't know how he feels and wanted an opinion....should i hold out and see or walk away? thank you.

---------------------------------------------Miss Emily's advice-------------------------------------

If he's lost friends and future companions over his job, then he simply isn't putting in the effort to maintain them. He talks a big game, and he seems to want to place the responsibility elsewhere, rather than admit he's in charge of his life and how he lives it. I think this is probably a wash for you. You've been patient, yet he still shows no sign of trying to put his best foot forward. I can understand why women, in the past, have taken a powder. Now, so should you -- free of guilt, because no matter how well intentioned he says he is, he's giving you nothing more than lip-service, because his actions speak otherwise.