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Married Man Plays Foolish Game
- By Miss Emily
- Published 06/20/2010
- Relationships - Women
Dear Miss Emily:
I really need to know if i am wasting my time. I am 34 years old and there is this man that i'm truly in love with but there's a catch -- he's married, unhappily, from the way he's talked to me. I've known him for 2 years. In the beginning he would flirt with me all the time, and he even made a statement to a family member that he had to wait on his girlfriend (he was talking about me) when i pulled up. We both enjoy racing a lot and he wanted to take me to the races. I was engaged for a year just broke it off with him, but this man i love used to always pull me to the side and asked me when i was going to get married, or was i going to get married. He even used to bring me Nascar gifts to my work and give them to me. He always stares at me when i walk in his store and, one time when i was shopping down an isle, he approached me immediately -- like all up in my space talking to me, helping me shop. When i would back off and move to the other side he would follow. I fell in love with him at first sight. 5 days ago i had the guts to tell him that i had a crush on him, and now its like "poof" we don't hardly talk, and he doesnt want to talk about what i said. Please help me understand him?
------------------------------Miss Emily's advice-------------------------
Whoa, spooky stuff going on in this situation! I have a tendency to want to think of him as a complete fool, but after what he said about being his "girlfriend" and his apparent adoration for you -- if makes me think he has a screw loose (and he's a complete fool!) What's the point of all he has said and done, only to flee like a rat out of an aqueduct when you had the courage to tell him you have a crush on him? Red flags waving like the fourth of July on my radar screen. He's married, obviously has no intention of being otherwise and, if you're smart you will heed the warning. At the least, he's unpredictable, a tad silly and, apparently, not serious about getting something going. He plays a big game, but when the real chips are down, he pretends he's too sick to play. Lesson learned. 99% percent of the time, a married man will only break your heart in the end. I think you dodged a bullet.
I really need to know if i am wasting my time. I am 34 years old and there is this man that i'm truly in love with but there's a catch -- he's married, unhappily, from the way he's talked to me. I've known him for 2 years. In the beginning he would flirt with me all the time, and he even made a statement to a family member that he had to wait on his girlfriend (he was talking about me) when i pulled up. We both enjoy racing a lot and he wanted to take me to the races. I was engaged for a year just broke it off with him, but this man i love used to always pull me to the side and asked me when i was going to get married, or was i going to get married. He even used to bring me Nascar gifts to my work and give them to me. He always stares at me when i walk in his store and, one time when i was shopping down an isle, he approached me immediately -- like all up in my space talking to me, helping me shop. When i would back off and move to the other side he would follow. I fell in love with him at first sight. 5 days ago i had the guts to tell him that i had a crush on him, and now its like "poof" we don't hardly talk, and he doesnt want to talk about what i said. Please help me understand him?
------------------------------Miss Emily's advice-------------------------
Whoa, spooky stuff going on in this situation! I have a tendency to want to think of him as a complete fool, but after what he said about being his "girlfriend" and his apparent adoration for you -- if makes me think he has a screw loose (and he's a complete fool!) What's the point of all he has said and done, only to flee like a rat out of an aqueduct when you had the courage to tell him you have a crush on him? Red flags waving like the fourth of July on my radar screen. He's married, obviously has no intention of being otherwise and, if you're smart you will heed the warning. At the least, he's unpredictable, a tad silly and, apparently, not serious about getting something going. He plays a big game, but when the real chips are down, he pretends he's too sick to play. Lesson learned. 99% percent of the time, a married man will only break your heart in the end. I think you dodged a bullet.
