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Regrets Saying No To Round Two
- By Miss Emily
- Published 06/20/2010
- Relationships - Women
Hi Emily,
nice to meet you , i' m new here :) So i first met this guy who i
fell in love with the first time i saw him...his friends knew i liked
him and told him and so after this he asked me out and i was really
happy :) we used to have fun together a lot..but the relationship didn't
last longer than a month ... he said he had probs and stuff, and the
fact that he broke up with me for no reason hurt me a real lot as i
really didn't see it coming and he explained that i wasn't my fault and
all that crap. I had started to forget about him but then after a week
he asked me out again and told me that he was alright
now and had no problems. I didn't accept and told him i was afraid he'd
hurt me again. However he still kept sending messages and and phoning
me and told my friend how much he still loved me ..and all i did was
ignore him. Its been about 3 months since we aren't together i had
expected to have forgotten about him but i didn't :( even the fact that
he kissed my best
friend really killed me, it wasn't her fault as he took her
by surprise as she said. And now my friend told me that he has a new
girl and he has every right to do that but i have really strong feelings
for him and i don't think he really knows that. I mean im really
confused as i dont want to be with him because im afraid hell leave me
again but at the same time it kills me to know he's got another
girl...plss help me forget him so i can move on with my life thxx a
billionn xxxx
------------------------------Miss Emily's advice-----------------------------
He regretted the decision he made, and you regret the decision you made. I have to admire your strength, however, many people would not have the courage to refuse a "round 2." What surprises me is that he got over that problem, so quickly, after only a week! It tells me he's capable of letting his internal pendulum swing at the risk of hurting others -- but he's human. You didn't mention when he kissed your girl friend -- whether it was while you were with him or afterward but, again, it tells me he spreads himself a little too thin in the emotional commitment department. I think you wonder where it could have gone (obviously), and you're feeling an emptiness -- a form of rejection -- that he's moved on to a new relationship. Bottom line: The breakup was odd, out of the blue, but not something that could be considered unforgivable. Because you can't seem to get over this new event, you could send him a message that you've had a lot of time to think, and you regret your decision to not give the relationship another try. At least, then, you made an overture and, if it doesn't work out with the new girlfriend, perhaps he'll seek you out. It may not be to your advantage if he does, but you're a big girl, you know what happened in the past and there would be no guarantee it would work a second time. That said, you'll always wonder if it could and, for that reason, contacting him would not be wrong if you are willing to take what comes next.
------------------------------Miss Emily's advice-----------------------------
He regretted the decision he made, and you regret the decision you made. I have to admire your strength, however, many people would not have the courage to refuse a "round 2." What surprises me is that he got over that problem, so quickly, after only a week! It tells me he's capable of letting his internal pendulum swing at the risk of hurting others -- but he's human. You didn't mention when he kissed your girl friend -- whether it was while you were with him or afterward but, again, it tells me he spreads himself a little too thin in the emotional commitment department. I think you wonder where it could have gone (obviously), and you're feeling an emptiness -- a form of rejection -- that he's moved on to a new relationship. Bottom line: The breakup was odd, out of the blue, but not something that could be considered unforgivable. Because you can't seem to get over this new event, you could send him a message that you've had a lot of time to think, and you regret your decision to not give the relationship another try. At least, then, you made an overture and, if it doesn't work out with the new girlfriend, perhaps he'll seek you out. It may not be to your advantage if he does, but you're a big girl, you know what happened in the past and there would be no guarantee it would work a second time. That said, you'll always wonder if it could and, for that reason, contacting him would not be wrong if you are willing to take what comes next.
