Emily, I have been struggling with my boyfriend. In December we took a short two week break and during that time I slept with someone else. I being scared that I would lose him did not tell him until last night. See he found a text in my phone last week and asked me what it ment and I told him nothing. He then wanted to know the truth and everything. So last night I broke down and told him that I slept with this guy and that it was a mistake. I love this man with all my heart and I'm so scared to lose him. This morning when I dropped him off for work, he told me he loved me and kissed me goodbye and that he would call me on his lunch break. Do you think are relationship is going to be over? Is there anything I can do?

-----------------------------Miss Emily's advice-----------------------

I don't think the relationship should be over, if that's what you mean. You haven't told me anything to indicate that he thinks it's over. I suspect he has to process this information, however. You also didn't mention the terms of the "two week break." I think he, if he's realistic about life, must know that these things do happen and no one should have to pay the price of losing someone over it. You told him the truth, and that should carry much weight. You can discuss this with him, ad nauseam, but it is he who is going to have to let it go and get on with the relationship -- because, I assume, it's pretty damn good. He would be wrong to let you go. That said, I am a firm believer that not everything need be told in a relationship -- in that, some things can be kept between you and you. Why? Because we all make mistakes, and need not spend the rest of our lives regretting them -- and things like this happen! You took a break for a reason -- something wasn't right. You fell prey to a situation that was probably, and maybe not, a lapse in judgment. Now, if you somehow, subconsciously wanted him to see that text, okay. But, if not, I would make a habit of eliminating them in the future.