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Should Marriage Follow?
- By Miss Emily
- Published 06/11/2010
- Relationships - Women
Dear Miss Emily:
Hi i want to get some advise on how to move on, my BF and i broke up and he admitted to having sex with someone else whilst we were apart and now he wants to get back together, we were together for 5 years before we broke up, he said it was just once and he is truly sorry and he will never do it again, i know him well and know that this is not the type of person he is but it still did happen and yes we did break up, now we are together or he is trying very hard putting up with my mood swings etc, i want to tell him that i rather we get married this time round so we are committed to each other 100% and i will feel more comfortable and i can then be complete as well - is that wrong to ask, or too soon.
------------------------------------------------Miss Emily's advice---------------------------------------
I don't think it's wrong to ask, but you haven't given me any indication he would agree. After having been together for five years, marriage would be a natural progression. But if this does lead to marriage, you're going to have to get over the fact that he had sex with another woman. Most of my letters of this nature are from people who have been cheated on while in the relationship -- not during a break-up. I see the most important part of getting this right the second time around is to resolve the issues that caused the break-up in the first place.
Hi i want to get some advise on how to move on, my BF and i broke up and he admitted to having sex with someone else whilst we were apart and now he wants to get back together, we were together for 5 years before we broke up, he said it was just once and he is truly sorry and he will never do it again, i know him well and know that this is not the type of person he is but it still did happen and yes we did break up, now we are together or he is trying very hard putting up with my mood swings etc, i want to tell him that i rather we get married this time round so we are committed to each other 100% and i will feel more comfortable and i can then be complete as well - is that wrong to ask, or too soon.
------------------------------------------------Miss Emily's advice---------------------------------------
I don't think it's wrong to ask, but you haven't given me any indication he would agree. After having been together for five years, marriage would be a natural progression. But if this does lead to marriage, you're going to have to get over the fact that he had sex with another woman. Most of my letters of this nature are from people who have been cheated on while in the relationship -- not during a break-up. I see the most important part of getting this right the second time around is to resolve the issues that caused the break-up in the first place.
