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College Blues
- By Miss Emily
- Published 06/10/2010
- Relationships - Teens
Hi Ms. Emily,
I didn't do terribly well my first year of college. For some reason, i was very motivated and wanted high grades in high school. When i started college, i felt unmotivated and pressured to study. Some people act as if in college that you have to be barricaded in a library studying all day instead doing fun things like going to parties. I honestly didn't think of going to university straight out of high school bc of not feeling ready. It's the pressure from my family and classmates from high school to go to university. I thought of coming to university to make up those times of being miserable in high school.
-------------------------------Miss Emily's advice-------------------------
College is a balancing act, like so many thing s in life and, usually, the first year is the hardest. Some say that's true of marriage, as well. It requires discipline and, I think, because you felt so pressured in high school, you don't want to have to walk the same tired road. But it doesn't have to be that way. If you intend to head back for a second year, I suggest you forgo the guilt and work out a schedule that gives you the best results with the least amount of pressure. You can party (moderately) if you want, but I think those who buckle down with such incredible intent, do it because they know the job market is pretty tough -- it gets harder to compete in our world if you don't have the education and, with more people in college, there's a fierce competition for the jobs that are available in your field of expertise. Now, with all this said, if you absolutely think you're taking the wrong journey in life, perhaps it's time to face that and rework the plan. For example: If your desire is to be a first-class chef, there's no need to go to a four-year college. You get my drift. Find out what it is you want, and go after it. I am a strong believer in women being financially independent, and an good education is paramount. College is a good place to start, because you have your foot in the door and you can, eventually, pick a major that suits you. You are depressed and confused about this, I know but, hopefully, the summer will give you some time to relax, some new insight and, when you return to college, you'll have a better idea about your goals and how to achieve them. I hope I helped, and I wish you well.
I didn't do terribly well my first year of college. For some reason, i was very motivated and wanted high grades in high school. When i started college, i felt unmotivated and pressured to study. Some people act as if in college that you have to be barricaded in a library studying all day instead doing fun things like going to parties. I honestly didn't think of going to university straight out of high school bc of not feeling ready. It's the pressure from my family and classmates from high school to go to university. I thought of coming to university to make up those times of being miserable in high school.
-------------------------------Miss Emily's advice-------------------------
College is a balancing act, like so many thing s in life and, usually, the first year is the hardest. Some say that's true of marriage, as well. It requires discipline and, I think, because you felt so pressured in high school, you don't want to have to walk the same tired road. But it doesn't have to be that way. If you intend to head back for a second year, I suggest you forgo the guilt and work out a schedule that gives you the best results with the least amount of pressure. You can party (moderately) if you want, but I think those who buckle down with such incredible intent, do it because they know the job market is pretty tough -- it gets harder to compete in our world if you don't have the education and, with more people in college, there's a fierce competition for the jobs that are available in your field of expertise. Now, with all this said, if you absolutely think you're taking the wrong journey in life, perhaps it's time to face that and rework the plan. For example: If your desire is to be a first-class chef, there's no need to go to a four-year college. You get my drift. Find out what it is you want, and go after it. I am a strong believer in women being financially independent, and an good education is paramount. College is a good place to start, because you have your foot in the door and you can, eventually, pick a major that suits you. You are depressed and confused about this, I know but, hopefully, the summer will give you some time to relax, some new insight and, when you return to college, you'll have a better idea about your goals and how to achieve them. I hope I helped, and I wish you well.
