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Teen Guy Feels Unworthy of Girlfriend
- By Miss Emily
- Published 06/8/2010
- Relationships - Teens
Hello Emily,
This seems like a cool site, so thanks for your help. I appreciate it.So anyway, I have a girlfriend and I love her a lot. I know I'm only 15, but I know it is true love. I can feel it.and, anyway, I have been feeling like I have ruined our relationship. I feel like I start fights over the littlest thing, and she is so sweet and I told her that I'm not good enough for her,and she says that she still wants to be with me. I just wish I knew if she meant it. I want her to have the best. She deserves it,.and I have just been feeling not confident about it as if I don't deserve her. If you have any helpful advice,I would sure appreciate it.. Thank you.
---------------------------Miss Emily's advice-------------------------
You have to get in touch with why you feel so insecure. You will, eventually, drive her away -- you will create a sort of self-fulfilling prophesy in that your worst fear will be realized. There's an old saying: "I wouldn't want to be a part of a group that would have me as a member." Meaning . . . I don't like myself, why would I want to be with people, or someone who seems to like me -- there must be something wrong with them! I don't know your background, but perhaps your insecurity comes from your family life, a lack of support, or a family member who has made you feel inadequate as a person. But I'm here to tell you, if that's the case, it is not you but only the people who treat you this way who are at fault. Now, I may be completely off base, but this is often the case. If I were you, I'd make a concerted effort to try and keep your comments and behavior in check. This girl seems like a great person, and she likes you because of all your good qualities. Don't let foolish insecurity ruin a good thing and, if you do, at some point in your life you will become resentful of those who do not accept you, rather than working on fixing the psychological issues that make it hard for you to have a good relationship.
This seems like a cool site, so thanks for your help. I appreciate it.So anyway, I have a girlfriend and I love her a lot. I know I'm only 15, but I know it is true love. I can feel it.and, anyway, I have been feeling like I have ruined our relationship. I feel like I start fights over the littlest thing, and she is so sweet and I told her that I'm not good enough for her,and she says that she still wants to be with me. I just wish I knew if she meant it. I want her to have the best. She deserves it,.and I have just been feeling not confident about it as if I don't deserve her. If you have any helpful advice,I would sure appreciate it.. Thank you.
---------------------------Miss Emily's advice-------------------------
You have to get in touch with why you feel so insecure. You will, eventually, drive her away -- you will create a sort of self-fulfilling prophesy in that your worst fear will be realized. There's an old saying: "I wouldn't want to be a part of a group that would have me as a member." Meaning . . . I don't like myself, why would I want to be with people, or someone who seems to like me -- there must be something wrong with them! I don't know your background, but perhaps your insecurity comes from your family life, a lack of support, or a family member who has made you feel inadequate as a person. But I'm here to tell you, if that's the case, it is not you but only the people who treat you this way who are at fault. Now, I may be completely off base, but this is often the case. If I were you, I'd make a concerted effort to try and keep your comments and behavior in check. This girl seems like a great person, and she likes you because of all your good qualities. Don't let foolish insecurity ruin a good thing and, if you do, at some point in your life you will become resentful of those who do not accept you, rather than working on fixing the psychological issues that make it hard for you to have a good relationship.
