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Shy Guy Won't Make Move
- By Miss Emily
- Published 06/8/2010
- Relationships - Women
Dear Miss Emily:
How do you really know if a shy guy likes you? Does he hover over you one minute and stand next to you randomly, talk to you and never want to end the conversation unless he has too? It seems like his face lights up when he sees you. Seems to hold your gaze, but when your around for some reason leaves the area. Or never really starts the conversation unless you start it. When he talks to you its about the most random thing ever but it seems like it may be the only conversation to talk about at that time. Then on top of that you find out that his best friend likes you too so now you don't want to hurt his friend cuz your best friends with him for about 10 years and the guy you like about 8 years. So now you're stuck trying to get close to the guy you like but the bf is in the way. So I guess what I'm asking is how long will it take for him to finally make the move if he does? It's been 2 months. I'm a little confused -- there's more to it but I obvously can't type it all. .Oh, and I asked his sister does she think he likes me and she says she doesn't know becuz he would have said something by now. I'm just confused cuz I can tell he likes me but it's like what now? I txtd him one day and we talked for an hour and, then, he had to go..but we never txtd again. One night his sister, him and I were walking outside and I was talking to everybody about the fact that I've been sick blah blah and then he like, all of a sudden comes out with "How are you parents!" I'm like they're fine.It startled me. I didnt know what to say cuz I like him. Anyway, that same night before, he said "hey" and I said "hey." He shook my hand and, as he was walking off, he was holding a gaze with me. Grrrrr. What does that mean? And one night this week, when he walked in, it's like he instantly met eyes with me. Anyway, to make a long story short what do you think is up?
------------------------------Miss Emily's advice-----------------------------
This is a case where you have to be a mind reader in order to figure out what's really going on in his head. Age may have something to do with it. How old are you and he? I ask that because even shy guys can, usually, figure out how to get the girl at some point in his life. If this is the guy you really like, I see no reason not to approach him and find out what his actions mean. You could wait for a long time trying to figure it out and still get no further than point A. Perhaps, because he's shy, he's waiting for you to make the next move which is so often the case in this circumstance. Some shy people would rather have an arm cut off than make the first move. It comes from insecurity, and fear of rejection. Girls, today, are pretty forward and don't need a guy to take the lead. If it's too hard for you to ask him if there's anything meant by his actions, why don't you ask him to go to a movie with you, or some outing? The other guy that likes you does not have ownership of you, and a simple invite to do something with "shy guy" isn't a marriage proposal, after all. If he declines, go for the best friend if you have any interest in him. Life is too short to second guess what others are thinking. It's best to find out so you can make informed choices based on fact, rather than perceived thoughts that can be totally off-base.
How do you really know if a shy guy likes you? Does he hover over you one minute and stand next to you randomly, talk to you and never want to end the conversation unless he has too? It seems like his face lights up when he sees you. Seems to hold your gaze, but when your around for some reason leaves the area. Or never really starts the conversation unless you start it. When he talks to you its about the most random thing ever but it seems like it may be the only conversation to talk about at that time. Then on top of that you find out that his best friend likes you too so now you don't want to hurt his friend cuz your best friends with him for about 10 years and the guy you like about 8 years. So now you're stuck trying to get close to the guy you like but the bf is in the way. So I guess what I'm asking is how long will it take for him to finally make the move if he does? It's been 2 months. I'm a little confused -- there's more to it but I obvously can't type it all. .Oh, and I asked his sister does she think he likes me and she says she doesn't know becuz he would have said something by now. I'm just confused cuz I can tell he likes me but it's like what now? I txtd him one day and we talked for an hour and, then, he had to go..but we never txtd again. One night his sister, him and I were walking outside and I was talking to everybody about the fact that I've been sick blah blah and then he like, all of a sudden comes out with "How are you parents!" I'm like they're fine.It startled me. I didnt know what to say cuz I like him. Anyway, that same night before, he said "hey" and I said "hey." He shook my hand and, as he was walking off, he was holding a gaze with me. Grrrrr. What does that mean? And one night this week, when he walked in, it's like he instantly met eyes with me. Anyway, to make a long story short what do you think is up?
------------------------------Miss Emily's advice-----------------------------
This is a case where you have to be a mind reader in order to figure out what's really going on in his head. Age may have something to do with it. How old are you and he? I ask that because even shy guys can, usually, figure out how to get the girl at some point in his life. If this is the guy you really like, I see no reason not to approach him and find out what his actions mean. You could wait for a long time trying to figure it out and still get no further than point A. Perhaps, because he's shy, he's waiting for you to make the next move which is so often the case in this circumstance. Some shy people would rather have an arm cut off than make the first move. It comes from insecurity, and fear of rejection. Girls, today, are pretty forward and don't need a guy to take the lead. If it's too hard for you to ask him if there's anything meant by his actions, why don't you ask him to go to a movie with you, or some outing? The other guy that likes you does not have ownership of you, and a simple invite to do something with "shy guy" isn't a marriage proposal, after all. If he declines, go for the best friend if you have any interest in him. Life is too short to second guess what others are thinking. It's best to find out so you can make informed choices based on fact, rather than perceived thoughts that can be totally off-base.
