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Put Wedding On Hold
- By Miss Emily
- Published 05/19/2010
- Relationships - Women
Dear Miss Emily:
My fiance and the father of my child has befriended about 5 or 6 different girls in the two years that we have been together. He never tells me about these girls, I always have to find out for myself (yes, by snooping, which I know is wrong, too). Every time this happens, I tell him to just tell me things, and every time he says he will from then on. But that never happens, and about every other month there is a new girl that he is texting while he is at work -- while I am at home sleeping. He meets these girls through work, because he delivers newspapers to almost all of the stores in our town. When I confront him about it, he gets mad about me snooping (to be expected), then always says that they are just friends. Why, if they are such good friends, don't I ever hear about these girls? I am finding it hard to trust him at all, because on top of all this, he has a history of cheating on every girl he has ever been with. I really don't know what to do. Any advice?
------------------------------Miss Emily's advice---------------------------
Yes, do not marry him until you are as sure as you can be that he is trustworthy, and he can sacrifice his need to correspond with these females on this level. I always tell my readers, there is no harm in having friend of the opposite sex when you are committed to someone -- but it must be open, above board, and you should be included if he were to see any one of them in person. He's not ready for marriage, obviously, and until he is (if he ever is) I would keep the wedding cake in the deep-freeze.
My fiance and the father of my child has befriended about 5 or 6 different girls in the two years that we have been together. He never tells me about these girls, I always have to find out for myself (yes, by snooping, which I know is wrong, too). Every time this happens, I tell him to just tell me things, and every time he says he will from then on. But that never happens, and about every other month there is a new girl that he is texting while he is at work -- while I am at home sleeping. He meets these girls through work, because he delivers newspapers to almost all of the stores in our town. When I confront him about it, he gets mad about me snooping (to be expected), then always says that they are just friends. Why, if they are such good friends, don't I ever hear about these girls? I am finding it hard to trust him at all, because on top of all this, he has a history of cheating on every girl he has ever been with. I really don't know what to do. Any advice?
------------------------------Miss Emily's advice---------------------------
Yes, do not marry him until you are as sure as you can be that he is trustworthy, and he can sacrifice his need to correspond with these females on this level. I always tell my readers, there is no harm in having friend of the opposite sex when you are committed to someone -- but it must be open, above board, and you should be included if he were to see any one of them in person. He's not ready for marriage, obviously, and until he is (if he ever is) I would keep the wedding cake in the deep-freeze.
