Hey, I've written to you before a few months ago about the guy I met in my creative writing class who stopped talking to me. Well, it took me a while to get over him but, eventually, he started hanging around another girl at my school. He told my friend that it wasn't that he didn't want to talk to me, but that he honestly didn't know why he stopped. Isn't that just stupid? I don't understand him. Well, ironically, the day I found out that he was hanging out with a different girl, I also found out that another guy in my class likes me. I've hung out with him once, and he seems really sweet. But, I find myself comparing him to the other guy all the time. My friends keep pressuring me to like him, but I don't know. I just don't have a lot in common with him and it's not as easy to talk to him as it was with the other guy.  I don't know if I just don't want to date him because of the other guy, or if I only want to date him because the other guy is moving on? And I don't want to ruin this if its a good thing. What do you think I should do?

-------------------------------------------------Miss Emily's advice---------------------------------------

For all the reasons you stated, I think it's worth giving this guy a try. It doesn't mean you have to be joined-at-the-hip, or walk down the hall together in a lip-lock -- just go have some fun. If you find you don't have much in common with him after a few dating-type moments, you can tell him your feelings have changed. There's no crime in that -- the dating police won't storm your bedroom in the middle of the night and slap some sense into you. The other guy has a girlfriend now and, the fact remains, he did stop talking to you whether or not he can figure out the reason why. It's a little cavalier in attitude, if you ask me, and if he ever becomes interested in you, you''ll know it. He will have a better memory about you, and the contact you and he have had.