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Gay Girl Loses Love Of Her Life
- By Miss Emily
- Published 05/15/2010
- Relationships - Teens
Dear Miss Emily:
I am SO depressed! I am an 18 year old girl; I was 17 when i fell in love with this girl, who is 15, then 14. We go to the same high school. I am a senior, she is a freshman, and when we started talking, we were just friends; she wasn't a lesbian or looking for a relationship, but after a few months we started feeling new feelings for each other. Her mom found us together when she went to pick her daughter up, and bugged OUT. She must have known, automatically, about us, and when my girlfriend went home, her mom beat her up. She came back to school telling me her mom doesn't want us to see each other, but we continued to sneak around and meet each other daily. Her mom found out, and tried to press charges, but in exchange for that I was sent to a reform school for 2 months and, during that period, she and I had no contact. When I returned to school this March, we started going out again, and it became more serious than ever before. We were sneaking around more secretly, hiding together. We even had a secret spot on the stairway in the back of the school. I was SO in love with her! But her sister, who was out on pregnant leave, came back and told their mom that we were together. Two days ago,(little did I know, the last day I would ever see my beautiful baby girl ever again) she and I spent the morning together and we were supposed to meet up in the afternoon -- SHE WASN"T THERE! 20 minutes later my friends came up to me saying they saw her and administrators' emptying out her locker and she looked upset. I was desperate to find out what happened to her, and when I did later on that day, her sister told me their mom found out, AGAIN, about us and that she withdrew her from school...and today I found out that her mom sent her to live with family in Mexico, so that we can't be together!! She has no phone, no myspace, NOTHING(her mom didn't want her to talk to me) and I am SO MISERABLE I can't eat, sleep, breathe, I am having bad nightmares when I do get to sleep, and I feel so empty and depressed! I love her so much, and I've never felt this way about any other person in my life. I even considered suicide, which is very unlike me. I will never see her again, and its killing me...I just need some advice on how I should handle this situation, please....
---------------------------Miss Emily's advice-------------------------
I don't see there's much that can be done because of her age. Her mother has the right to dictate where she goes, and with whom. I know your heart is broken, and my heart goes out to you. But your hands are tied until she's of an age where she can contact you, again, and is considered a legal adult -- where her mother no longer has any say on what she does. But remember, even if that were to occur, she may end up remaining loyal to her family because, to lose it, would make her life feel untethered -- and that's a big issue on its own..My advice? Lick your wounds, and try to find happiness with another girl, for now. It may sound harsh, but it's realistic.
I am SO depressed! I am an 18 year old girl; I was 17 when i fell in love with this girl, who is 15, then 14. We go to the same high school. I am a senior, she is a freshman, and when we started talking, we were just friends; she wasn't a lesbian or looking for a relationship, but after a few months we started feeling new feelings for each other. Her mom found us together when she went to pick her daughter up, and bugged OUT. She must have known, automatically, about us, and when my girlfriend went home, her mom beat her up. She came back to school telling me her mom doesn't want us to see each other, but we continued to sneak around and meet each other daily. Her mom found out, and tried to press charges, but in exchange for that I was sent to a reform school for 2 months and, during that period, she and I had no contact. When I returned to school this March, we started going out again, and it became more serious than ever before. We were sneaking around more secretly, hiding together. We even had a secret spot on the stairway in the back of the school. I was SO in love with her! But her sister, who was out on pregnant leave, came back and told their mom that we were together. Two days ago,(little did I know, the last day I would ever see my beautiful baby girl ever again) she and I spent the morning together and we were supposed to meet up in the afternoon -- SHE WASN"T THERE! 20 minutes later my friends came up to me saying they saw her and administrators' emptying out her locker and she looked upset. I was desperate to find out what happened to her, and when I did later on that day, her sister told me their mom found out, AGAIN, about us and that she withdrew her from school...and today I found out that her mom sent her to live with family in Mexico, so that we can't be together!! She has no phone, no myspace, NOTHING(her mom didn't want her to talk to me) and I am SO MISERABLE I can't eat, sleep, breathe, I am having bad nightmares when I do get to sleep, and I feel so empty and depressed! I love her so much, and I've never felt this way about any other person in my life. I even considered suicide, which is very unlike me. I will never see her again, and its killing me...I just need some advice on how I should handle this situation, please....
---------------------------Miss Emily's advice-------------------------
I don't see there's much that can be done because of her age. Her mother has the right to dictate where she goes, and with whom. I know your heart is broken, and my heart goes out to you. But your hands are tied until she's of an age where she can contact you, again, and is considered a legal adult -- where her mother no longer has any say on what she does. But remember, even if that were to occur, she may end up remaining loyal to her family because, to lose it, would make her life feel untethered -- and that's a big issue on its own..My advice? Lick your wounds, and try to find happiness with another girl, for now. It may sound harsh, but it's realistic.
