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Emotionally Unstable Boyfriend
- By Miss Emily
- Published 05/8/2010
- Relationships - Teens
Dear Miss Emily:
I
don't trust my boyfriend of one year. He has lied
to me in the past and this left me devastated but i have tried to
forgive him and i don't think i can ever trust him again. I only hangout
with him so i don't feel like i have many other people in my life. Today
we had a fight about trust. I told him i don't think i can ever trust
him coz of his lies and he stabbed himself with the pocket knife my dad
gave him in the arm. He has said if i breakup with him, he'll kill
himself
coz his life will be useless without me. He later apologized through a
text. I'm so stressed out every day. I don't know what
to do. please help
---------------------------------------------Miss Emily's advice------------------------------------
First off, you need other people in your life. It's wrong to be so isolated -- unless you're eighty years-old and in a wheelchair, or simply hate the human race and don't want to be involved with it. I'm all for forgetting small breaches of trust, but this guy sounds not only untrustworthy, but an emotionally unstable person. Stabbing himself in the arm, to make a point, made me wince just reading it. Surely you must have felt, for that one moment, like you just stepped into social hour at a mental hospital. He may make the threat that he would kill himself without you, but that's highly unlikely. It's usually an empty threat to get a desired result. I don't like the sound of this relationship, and I worry for you. You're putting yourself in a constant stressful situation and it will eventually affect you health, because it's already altering your well-being. Take note: The more power you give away, the more power he gains, and you will end up powerless and solely dependent on him. That's when you will get to the point where you can't leave, because you are helpless. Use your head. If you think this relationship needs to end, then end it (and I think it should). The longer you stay, the harder it will be and the more desperate he will become. And you don't want to be there when that happens, believe me.
---------------------------------------------Miss Emily's advice------------------------------------
First off, you need other people in your life. It's wrong to be so isolated -- unless you're eighty years-old and in a wheelchair, or simply hate the human race and don't want to be involved with it. I'm all for forgetting small breaches of trust, but this guy sounds not only untrustworthy, but an emotionally unstable person. Stabbing himself in the arm, to make a point, made me wince just reading it. Surely you must have felt, for that one moment, like you just stepped into social hour at a mental hospital. He may make the threat that he would kill himself without you, but that's highly unlikely. It's usually an empty threat to get a desired result. I don't like the sound of this relationship, and I worry for you. You're putting yourself in a constant stressful situation and it will eventually affect you health, because it's already altering your well-being. Take note: The more power you give away, the more power he gains, and you will end up powerless and solely dependent on him. That's when you will get to the point where you can't leave, because you are helpless. Use your head. If you think this relationship needs to end, then end it (and I think it should). The longer you stay, the harder it will be and the more desperate he will become. And you don't want to be there when that happens, believe me.
