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Her Mother Hates Me!
- By Miss Emily
- Published 05/7/2010
- Relationships - Men
Dear Emily,
My girlfriend and i have been on and off for the past 5 years because of her being away at school and the whole long distance thing. Currently we are at the point where we have been together the longest,about a year now. We love each other but the problem i am having is her mother. Her mother met me once 5 years ago and once about 2 years ago. Her mom absolutely hates my guts because when we dated prior i was not in school and was selling cars at the time. The main issue I'm having now is that my girlfriend is convinced that no matter what i do or say, her mother will never like and will never even give me the chance to even show her who i really am inside. It really pisses me off that she can love me so much yet believe so strongly that her mother will never like me. She also lies to her mother every time she's with me because she claims if she said she wants to be with me, they will not pay for her school, car payment etc. I feel like i have treated her the way a true man really should a women. I have no other enemies in this world besides her mom who believes I'm a horrible guy, also because her brother knows me and only has bad things to say about me. I feel like I'm just wasting my time, sometimes, because what's the point of being with someone -- if you believe in the future -- you can never really be with her ?Should i move on? I really dont know....
------------------------------Miss Emily's advice--------------------------
My heart goes out to you. I can't imagine being in a relationship where it's cast in stone that your girlfriend's mother will never accept you. Bummer, indeed. Maybe if you won the lottery she'd change her mind???? I do think it's time to consider moving on. Your girlfriend has made no attempt to remedy this situation -- and her "free ride" seems to supersede all else. From what she has said, you two have no future and you are an interim plan. You feel like an outcast, and sneaking around is for a 13 year-old boy. Man-up, put your true feelings at the forefront and decide how much longer you can be this situation. Five years is a long time to be with someone, and breaking up is almost always hard. But never is a long time. too.
My girlfriend and i have been on and off for the past 5 years because of her being away at school and the whole long distance thing. Currently we are at the point where we have been together the longest,about a year now. We love each other but the problem i am having is her mother. Her mother met me once 5 years ago and once about 2 years ago. Her mom absolutely hates my guts because when we dated prior i was not in school and was selling cars at the time. The main issue I'm having now is that my girlfriend is convinced that no matter what i do or say, her mother will never like and will never even give me the chance to even show her who i really am inside. It really pisses me off that she can love me so much yet believe so strongly that her mother will never like me. She also lies to her mother every time she's with me because she claims if she said she wants to be with me, they will not pay for her school, car payment etc. I feel like i have treated her the way a true man really should a women. I have no other enemies in this world besides her mom who believes I'm a horrible guy, also because her brother knows me and only has bad things to say about me. I feel like I'm just wasting my time, sometimes, because what's the point of being with someone -- if you believe in the future -- you can never really be with her ?Should i move on? I really dont know....
------------------------------Miss Emily's advice--------------------------
My heart goes out to you. I can't imagine being in a relationship where it's cast in stone that your girlfriend's mother will never accept you. Bummer, indeed. Maybe if you won the lottery she'd change her mind???? I do think it's time to consider moving on. Your girlfriend has made no attempt to remedy this situation -- and her "free ride" seems to supersede all else. From what she has said, you two have no future and you are an interim plan. You feel like an outcast, and sneaking around is for a 13 year-old boy. Man-up, put your true feelings at the forefront and decide how much longer you can be this situation. Five years is a long time to be with someone, and breaking up is almost always hard. But never is a long time. too.
