http://www.askmissemily.com/articles/754/1/To-Be-Or-Not-To-Be-A-Virgin/Page1.html
Published on 02/25/2010
Emily:
My girlfriend and me have been dating for 6
months and we are both still virgins. Last night she asked me a
question that doesn't make much sense to me. I want to wait to have
sex until I'm married, or almost, and she told me that too but, last
night, she said that she would have sex with me if I wanted her to, and I
don't know if that's a hint that she wants me to tell her I do too. I would
do anything for her. She told me she has ben thinking about it for a
few weeks, and I told her I want to wait. I love her with all my heart
and soul, and shes the girl I want to get married to someday. I never
really thought about having sex with her until she brought it up last
night and, now, I just don't know .
-------------------------Miss Emily's--------------------------
I understand the "great" temptation but, right now, you
shouldn't go ahead and have sex if you made up your mind that you want
to wait. This is one of those areas that is subject to change, however.
Good communication is everything in a relationship and you need to get
this settled, at least for now, in order to maintain an even keel.
Never do anything that is not right for you, nor compromise your values.
I know you love her, but doing anything
for her is not always a reasonable approach. That said, if you
change your mind, and you have every right if you feel comfortable with
the decision, make sure you use protection (no unplanned pregnancy, please) and aren't going to be
subjected to her
parents' wrath (if you are underage) and they find out about it. This
kind of decision should be a mature decision -- as well, you want to
avoid any future trouble and/or regret.