Dear Miss Emily:
I'm 19 and my
boyfriend is 27. The age difference is not an issue. Recently, I've had
this girl tell me she's having my boyfriend's baby. I asked him and he said he
doesn't know who she is. She knows a lot about his marks on his body all that
type of stuff, and she knows were we live. I've just moved in with him and she
knew all that, but he still protests that he doesn't know her. He's asked all
his friends if they know her. My head is all over the place. Half of me
believes him, the other half believes her.
No one will give me a true answer. Before my boyfriend met me, he was a bad
player. Now I don't know what to do. Please help
me, or just tell me your thoughts on the situation and, if it was you, what
would you do. Thank you.
------------------------------Miss Emily's advice-------------------------
Only a "nut case" would make a claim like this if she
hasn't had
any
involvement with him, and he, supposedly, doesn't even know her. If you
really want to get to the bottom of this, I think you and your
boyfriend meeting with her to hash this out would be appropriate. I
mean, think about it -- if there's any truth to it, this is going to
come out eventually! And if there is no truth to it, you'd think he'd
be
mad as hell and
want to
face his
accuser! You don't need to be more involved with him if seven
months from now there's a possibility he's going to be a dad, and lied
to you
about it. At least you want to make an informed choice to stay
or go, knowing what could be ahead of you. Often times, where there's
smoke, there's fire. If he's not willing to settle this
for his own sake,
as well as yours, he's hiding something and probably praying a lot.