Emily:
 
My boyfriend and i have been dating for 10 months now. Recently his famliy has stop talking to his sister for different reasons. This sister is also my best friend and she set me and my boyfriend up. He recently put me in a position of basicially choosing either him or his sister after i have explained to him that i wouldnt be talking sides. He took my answer but, now, he is always looking for info on his sister from me to find out if she has been bad-mouthing the family, and i feel in an awkward position and i dont know what to do. I have tried to explain to my boyfriend that I'm not getting involved but it seems to just go in one ear and out the other. I need help please! I'm am so frustrated with him, I'm on the verge of breaking up with him because if this is his true colors, i dont think i wanna be with him anymore.

--------------------------------------Miss Emily's advice------------------------------------





Well, yes, you are seeing his true colors. It's tempting for him to want to know any inside information, but if he truly cared for your feelings, he should respect the fact that you don't want to be put in the middle of their family feud. Make your final attempt to explain you reasoning to him, point out (because he doesn't get it) that you want to hold on to your integrity, and no one will take that from you -- not even him. His sister is not to blame for his bad behavior (as I am sure you are well aware), and that's why you have remained loyal to her. Again, if he can't connect the dots, tell him you'd like some time apart in order for him to figure it out.