Dear Miss Emily:

My sister is getting married and I am giving a shower.  There
are women on the wedding list who live across the country who
are friends/relatives from the grooms side of the 
family.  Is it appropriate to send an invitation to the shower?
Stumped

--------------------------------Emily's advice-----------------------------

Dear Stumped:

I would not send a wedding shower invitation to those who live across the country and are not able to attend. The only exception would be one where your sister was especially close to a certain individual.  It  bespeaks "Send a gift, even though I know you will not be here to join in the celebration."   A  wedding invitation, however, is perfectly acceptable.