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Boyfriend Nightmares at Seventeen
- By Miss Emily
- Published 09/19/2008
- Relationships - Teens
Dear Miss Emily:
I'm 17. I've been with my boyfriend for two years. We have been living together for a year now. We had a big fight, one night, and he went to his mom's. He got drunk and then cheated on me. We split up for a month or more, then I got back with him. I have nightmares about this happening, again. I worry a lot. I don’t know what to do, or where our relationship is going. I can’t trust him. Some days we're happy, and some days we're sad, mad and fighting. Please help!
Stuck
----------------------Miss Emily’s advice--------------------
Dear Stuck:
The relationship will continue to head south if you can’t sit down and talk to him about how you can improve it, and agree to start treating each other in a loving manner. Seventeen or not, these are the general rules of a good relationship: Respect and trust. If you don’t have that, you have nothing. Take a look at your behavior in this relationship, and ask yourself if you make unrealistic demands based on your insecurities. If it’s just a case of him being totally unreasonable and he treats you like a second-class citizen, face it now and make a break-up final. At seventeen, you’re not so deep into this relationship, with obligations like children and a mortgage, that you can’t walk away without dragging baggage behind you. In other words, seek a better life for yourself.
I'm 17. I've been with my boyfriend for two years. We have been living together for a year now. We had a big fight, one night, and he went to his mom's. He got drunk and then cheated on me. We split up for a month or more, then I got back with him. I have nightmares about this happening, again. I worry a lot. I don’t know what to do, or where our relationship is going. I can’t trust him. Some days we're happy, and some days we're sad, mad and fighting. Please help!
Stuck
----------------------Miss Emily’s advice--------------------
Dear Stuck:
The relationship will continue to head south if you can’t sit down and talk to him about how you can improve it, and agree to start treating each other in a loving manner. Seventeen or not, these are the general rules of a good relationship: Respect and trust. If you don’t have that, you have nothing. Take a look at your behavior in this relationship, and ask yourself if you make unrealistic demands based on your insecurities. If it’s just a case of him being totally unreasonable and he treats you like a second-class citizen, face it now and make a break-up final. At seventeen, you’re not so deep into this relationship, with obligations like children and a mortgage, that you can’t walk away without dragging baggage behind you. In other words, seek a better life for yourself.
