Dear Miss Emily:

My fiance and I have had a weird relationship so far.  He is currently in jail. Just a few days after he went to jail, I talked to a girl who also said that she was dating him. I was deeply hurt. He explained that he had bee dating her when we met, and he hadn't gotten the nerve to break up with her. The thing that he had with her is over. He will be home in about 3 months, and I told him that I will wait for him and he trusts me completely. Yesterday, my ex got in contact with me. I agreed to meet and speak with him. Our relationship had ended quite badly. To make a long story short, we ended up sleeping together. Immediately afterward, I felt terrible. I love my boyfriend with all of my heart. I have never been the type to cheat. I do not know if I should tell my boyfriend and make him lose all trust in me, or if I should keep it a secret and make sure that it never happens again. I am afraid that I will lose him if I tell him, and that is the last thing that I wanna do. Should I tell him?

---------------------------------Miss Emily's advice---------------------------

This whole story is absurd. Not that it isn't true (on your part), but I think you're being railroaded by a con artist. This guy is your fiance, and he failed to mention to you that he didn't tell a woman he was dating it's over? He was dating her when you met, and he hadn't the heart to break up with her? Gee, what a guy. He's in jail, he was seeing another woman at the same time he's engaged to you, and you worry about him trusting you? I'm stunned at your naivete. I don't doubt that you ex is not the right guy for you, because you seem to have a habit of choosing the wrong men. Of course, if you told your jailbird you slept with your ex that would cause tremendous doubt on his part, and he probably would not trust you, again -- or dump you (that would be a blessing in disguise). But since there's no trust in this relationship, anyway, I wonder what difference it would truly make if you did tell him?! This relationship is not only weird, it's wrong. And if you stay with him, you'll have only yourself to blame when you found out he was nothing more than what he appeared to be, but you put blinders on to avoid seeing the truth.