Hi Ms. Emily,

I want to ask you for advice. I'm currently in a relationship with my girlfriend, and we've been together for 2 and a half years. Boyfriend/girlfriend -- nothing serious.  This is my second relationship in life. My first one ended really fast (2 months). I have been doubting a lot in my relationship now, and everyday my love for my first girlfriend  grows and grows more. But here is one more problem, she has a boyfriend now, but I know she stills feels something for me. I don't know what to do. My current girlfriend is pretty nice, a good person, great family members and has financial status, but my heart just won't settle down I need help, please! Thank you.

--------------------------------Miss Emily's advice--------------------------

Your ex girlfriend may still feel something for you, but that is less the point than your feelings for your current girlfriend. In other words, your ex could be anyone who appeals to you more than she. You didn't mention your age, but that has a lot to do with you being in a long-term commitment. You need to ask yourself, how much more experience do I want to have in relationships before I even consider settling down to any one girl? If your relationship with your girlfriend is more like a brother to a sister, it's probably true that you've outgrown the relationship, and the relationship has run its course. Do not stay with your girlfriend if it's routine, only comfortable, and she's pretty nice, a good person, great family member and has financial status. Those are all great assets, but that doesn't carry the day if you're a sensitive and loving person who, eventually, wants a woman to be the great love of your life. Maybe you're not even close to having all the elements you should want for a lasting, loving relationship (trust, respect, common interests and values, open communication, and a willingness to form a working partnership), but that's all the more reason you should explore new relationships.  Again,do not stay with your girlfriend if your feelings are that of friendship alone. Friendship is the basis of any good romantic relationship, but friendship, alone, will not carry the day. It is unfair to her, and it only prolongs the inevitable. As well, it does not free you to be available for a redo with your ex --  if you and she are on the same page.