"J"
 
You have had tremendous difficulty in dealing with family issues, and I think you need to seek counseling; as well as your daughter, and the one from his first marriage who is accusing him of molestation -- yet now denies it. Both girls are troubled, indeed.  I cannot know, for sure, if your husband's daughter's accusations of him molesting her are true, or not. There is so much dysfunction in these families, based on the previous letters you've sent to me, I can't discount that there may be some truth to what both these girls have said. Sexual child abuse is a serious matter, and it does happen in families. Your husband, and your daugther with him have not gotten along for quite some time. Her hostility toward him is consistent. He has also made comments about having sleazy women come on to him, sexually, and he's frequently said that in front of her. Yes, she may have lied to you about what her stepsister told her but, again, that is an unknown. I think you need to talk to a professional in order to find some answers as to what's going on with your husband, your daughter, and how best to handle it. I am not saying he's guilty of what his other daughter accuses him of doing, but it warrants finding out -- if possible.