I have been in a relationship with a guy for over 3 years now, and we are currently in a rough patch. He says he still loves me but doesn't feel intimate feelings any more, and he doesn't know why. If I kiss him, his eyes are open watching tv. Or, I say I love you, and he says it back really fast. But he says it hurts him to see me hurt. It's been going on for two months now. I love him so much, and I'm scared to death of losing him. Any ideas to bring back the spark?

---------------------------------Miss Emily's advice----------------------------

It's he who feels this way, not you, and I am sure you're doing all you can to keep the spark ignited. I won't lie to you, this isn't a good sign. Assuming you have good hygiene, and your breath is always fresh, he no longer seems engaged in this relationship, and it's insulting to you for him to carry on in this manner. To kiss you with his eyes open while watching T.V., and to spit out the words "I love you" as if he were speaking another language is all you need to know. I know you see this as rejection and, in a sense, it is -- but it may have everything to do with who he is, and he might have had this problem consistently in relationships. Whatever the reason, I don't think this one is right for you, and you're going to have your feelings hurt, big time, if you stay in it.