Dear Miss Emily:

I have a question and this is the problem: I had a crush on this guy, and once I told him, he told me he didn't feel the same. I accepted, but once I sent a friend request to him on a social website. He didn't accept it, and thought I was stalking him. He's broken my heart a couple of times, as well. My question? What did I do wrong? How come he's avoiding me so much?

----------------------------Miss Emily's advice--------------------------

Your crush, I think, thought it was the end of the relationship  when he told you he wasn't interested in you. Being an overly sensitive guy, he took the friend request as you not getting the message. But that's his take on it, and stalking is hardly the word to use in this case -- if this is all there is to it! Now, all this said, you have to let it go. If he's broken your heart a couple of times, it's because you allowed it to happen knowing he had not expressed an interest in you. He's not responsible for your feelings if he never led you on. He, obviously, doesn't want a friendship with you, and the mature and proper road to take is to leave him alone and move on with your life. If you don't let it go, it leads me to believe that he has some legitimate reasons to see you as needy, and desperate.