Dear Miss Emily:

My girlfriend's brother does not like the fact I am dating his sister. He and I were friends first. I met my girlfriend when I was 29 and she was 15. I am now 36 and she is 22. This is our second time, together, and the first was when I was 31. We plan on moving in together, this year, into a one bedroom apartment. How do we tell him? He gets upset if she calls me Hon. Is it the age difference, or does he think she stole me away? We do still hangout and get along great. He did threaten to kick my ass if he found out I was having sex with her. But he was drunk at the time. Do I tell him we are adults and that's our business, or do I blow it off?

------------------------Miss Emily's advice--------------------

I think the age difference is a big deal to him, and the fact you started to like his sister when you were 29, and she was the tender age of 15. I have to be honest, it does seem like you were dipping into dangerous territory by going after a girl who was barely into her teens! That said, she's 22, now, you're 36 and, as adults, you and she have a right to do what you choose. He will either get over it, or he won't. That's the price you will have to pay for being in love with his sister. It you don't stand behind what you believe to be right, why should you expect him to be on board with it? It's a choice, and you have to accept the consequences. And, no, I do not think part of this is that his sister "stole" you away from him. I think he feels he lost his sister to a man who is too old for her.