Dear Miss Emily:

Recently, my ex-boyfriend, who I haven't seen for a year, emailed me to get together. We had dinner at his place which led to making out and sex. I felt awkward since it has been a year since we seen each other. We split on good terms. I asked him if he was happy that he got what he wanted meaning"sex". He said he respects me, of course, and all that. I just feel a real gentleman would have waited. Like if we were dating for the first time. I am confused and don't want to be used, or get hurt. What should I say or do? I am really crazy about him.

------------------------Miss Emily's advice------------------

Expecting him to pretend that you and he were on a first date was unrealistic from the get-go. I think you probably know each other pretty well, or well enough. The problem, I see, is that you are equally responsible for how the evening turned out. If you were hoping to rekindle the relationship, what you needed to do, rather than pretend nothing came before, was to catch-up on what had happened in each of your lives in the last year, and build from there. You may have ended up on good terms, but there were reasons for the breakup, and that wasn't going to disappear like magic. The impetus to leap into bed with him, is because you're crazy about him! However, it was not the best plan from your perspective. I guess you'll know soon enough if that evening was just a hook up with a past girlfriend, or whether he is truly interested in taking it further. If he does call, again, try to go out to dinner and make it an evening of chit-chat and, hopefully, a more meaningful connection.