Dear Miss Emily:

Okay, so me and this guy have been dating a year and a half, and everything seems amazing . . .but there have been a couple hick ups on his part; once with an ex on the phone, and once in a bed with a different ex.  These were both near the middle of the relationship and I had forgiven him. But then some friends saw him all over another man. Come to find out that he had been hanging out with him for a few weeks and used a fake name with the guy so i wouldn't find out -- jokes on them.  Anyway, when I asked him about it he lied, and when I caught him in that he dumped me just like that.  Now he is begging for me back, and I love him still. He swears nothing happened. He just didn't want me to think he was cheating on me. My question is: I love him so much, and I could see myself growing old and having kids with him. But part of me is fearing the fact that this will happen again, and I can't go through much more heartache. So what's your advice cause I am at a crossroad.

----------------------Miss Emily's advice--------------------

It will happen again! He can't be faithful to you, and he's a liar. When cheating happens only once, I often say, okay, we all make mistakes. But this seems to be habitual, and temptation is far more important to him than you will ever be. Lying is coercive. It shows absolutely no respect for the person being lied to. He's a selfish man, and if you think you can have forever with him, I have some property in Florida swampland I'd like to show you. I'll give ya a deal!