Dear Miss Emily:

I have a girl in my grade who has been telling me she has thoughts of killing herself. She is depressed. I used to be great friends with her but, recently, I am trying to not be friends with her because she is annoying. My friends and I think she is negative energy, and we don't really want her around us. I am just scared that she will kill herself if I don't invite her to plans or my birthday party. Do you have any ideas how to drop her without her hurting herself? Thanks.

-----------------------------Miss Emily's advice------------------------

Because of your attitude toward this girl, you have nothing to lose by going to the school counselor to tell her, or him what you know. Talk of suicide is a cry for help, and it should not be overlooked. Now, I am willing to admit that it can also be said in an a manner that reflects a person's bad mood, or disappointment with life at that moment, but this girl is depressed and she's consistent with her feelings of despondency. It's a bit shallow of you to make this an inconvenience you have to endure surrounding your birthday, but that does not discount the fact she needs help, and someone of authority needs to be told. I won't suggest you invite her to your party, although that would be a kind thing to do -- but do know that if this girl is suicidal, were she to take her life, her problems go a lot deeper than not getting an invite to a birthday party.