Dear Miss Emily:

I have been seeing a married man who has told me his marriage is over and will leave her soon. I could not bear cheating on my partner, so I left him. Now the married man does not want to leave his wife. He has ruined my life. Should I tell his wife because I want to ruin his now.

-------------------------Miss Emily's advice-----------------------

My opinion is, no, you should not tell his wife. I understand the temptation, and many women do this, but you don't want it to backfire on you. An angry man (like a woman scorned), can get nasty if his world is upset, and you can't know for sure if he would think double payback is in order. As well, you got into this relationship knowing he was married. Unless you live under a rock, you had to know that a married man says this sort of thing often; his marriage is over, and he will leave his wife for his mistress. Even if that's the initial intent, it seldom ends up happening. Let karma take care of him. I tend to think a married man slips up, eventually, and his wife ends up finding out. I know you want revenge but, again, take responsibility for your actions, and protect yourself from any future trouble that could occur if you were to blow the whistle on him.