Dear Miss Emily, 

I have been dating this guy for over a year and a half and I love him more than anything. A couple weeks ago we started fighting about the smallest things and it just kept getting worse. Yesterday we got in a really big fight and he broke up with me. Later, he told me he was just mad and didn't mean anything he said and he tried to get me back. I have no idea what to do. I told him that I just need time to figure things out but in all honesty I don't think I can handle all of the fighting anymore. I still love him, and I want to be with him but I don't know if we are really meant to be. Help?

------------------------Miss Emily's advice--------------------

This relationship may have run its course, that is true. Sometimes people stay together out of habit, despite certain frustrations that arise out of the need for change -- yet nothing is said, only frustration builds and fighting is the end result. But I don't think it's a good idea to toss out a year and a half without delving into this a little more. Get to the bottom of why you and he are fighting. There is a reason, but neither of you have figured it out; or have refused to know why. It could be that you and he truly aren't suited for the long -haul -- and with the changes that have occurred in you and him these last 18 months, you're no longer compatible. Talk it over with him. Maybe you and he will decide to "take a break" in order to get to the bottom of your true feelings for each other. For any long term relationship, there has to be attraction, but a quality relationship/true love has trust, respect, common interests and values, open communication, and a willingness to form a working partnership. You're probably going to have more men in your life, but get this relationship settled in order to move forward with any peace of mind.