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Teen Boy Frustrated By Ex-girlfriend's Control
- By Miss Emily
- Published 12/16/2011
- Relationships - Teens
Dear Miss Emily:
Hey, My ex broke up with me a few weeks ago and I got over her a while back. I asked out one of my friends who I like, and she wasn't sure because she was friends with my ex and she thought it'd be weird to go out with her ex. I asked my ex for some sort of blessing so I could put this whole thing behind us. My ex wouldn't respond to me. and I had to find out from a friend of hers that she refuses to speak with me because I wanted to date her friend. I'm now on horrible terms with my ex. We hate each other now. I want to date this girl. because I like her and she seems to really like me. We agreed to hangout as friends and she can decide later. How can I keep my ex from ruining my future relationships?
--------------------------Miss Emily's advice------------------------
It's not up to your bitter ex to stop, because she's a possessive, jealous girl. It's up to you, and the other people she affects to use your heads and not have their lives dictated by her. She broke up with you -- not the other way around. You have every right to date whomever you choose. But if your ex-girlfriend's friend has some misguided loyalty to her, you're not going to get too far. Keeping up the friendship may lead to more, and despite her proclamation to not date you, that could change once she sees how special you are (assuming that's the case!). This teen drama is all part of the growing up process, yet from the letters I get from them, it seems like an awfully bitter pill to swallow. It's like sending an 18 year-old to war. Crazy! I was once there (a teen) but, fortunately, I've forgotten a lot of it. Ditch the hate for your ex, and don't spend more mental energy on her. Hold your head high, and go about your business as if butter wouldn't melt in your mouth. It will drive your ex crazy!
--------------------------Miss Emily's advice------------------------
It's not up to your bitter ex to stop, because she's a possessive, jealous girl. It's up to you, and the other people she affects to use your heads and not have their lives dictated by her. She broke up with you -- not the other way around. You have every right to date whomever you choose. But if your ex-girlfriend's friend has some misguided loyalty to her, you're not going to get too far. Keeping up the friendship may lead to more, and despite her proclamation to not date you, that could change once she sees how special you are (assuming that's the case!). This teen drama is all part of the growing up process, yet from the letters I get from them, it seems like an awfully bitter pill to swallow. It's like sending an 18 year-old to war. Crazy! I was once there (a teen) but, fortunately, I've forgotten a lot of it. Ditch the hate for your ex, and don't spend more mental energy on her. Hold your head high, and go about your business as if butter wouldn't melt in your mouth. It will drive your ex crazy!
