Hi Emily:

I need advice bad!!! My wife has brought up wanting to sleep with a very well endowed black man, I think she got the idea from a friend who is always talking about it everywhere we go!! Should I let her, or will she cheat on me? I have no idea what to do?

-----------------------------Miss Emily's advice---------------------------

Unless this is an open marriage, "letting" opens up a Pandora's Box! Will she do it anyway? Possibly. Will you be tempted to go tit-for-tat if you say "Yes"? (pardon the play on words) It's more than a possibility! Trust is an important part of a quality marriage -- one where monogamy is expected. Without that, you don't have much of anything.