I'm in 7 year old relationship, but I always felt insecure, and I felt I would lose him. He always behaved, or said things that made me feel I'm not that important to him. He never tried for anything in our relationship, and he was kind of unsure. We are in distance relationship since August 2009. We haven't met at all during this period. I did everything to keep this relationship going. We want to marry. I love him, but he says that he likes me very much, but he doesn't know what love means. Recently, I asked him are you happy with me in your life? He said, "With you in my life I'm not happy, and without you staying by my side I wouldn't be happy either." I am so sad. I don't wanna live with a person who's indifferent to me, and I was so shocked to hear this after all these years that I've loved him with all my heart. And I was very faithful to him. I asked him maybe you could find someone you can love and be happy. He was silent and, then, he said, "Let's drop this subject. I don't wanna think about that." Could you tell me what does it mean please Miss Emily? I need your help.

------------------------Miss Emily's advice--------------------

Marriage is definitely not on the horizon! And even if it were, do you want to married to someone who has the audacity to tell you he doesn't know what love is? He comes off as an emotional eunuch. I wonder if this man has another woman in his life. He is horribly indifferent to you and this relationship, and I can't imagine putting up with this for too much longer. I think this relationship, if you can even call it that, had run its course quite a while ago and, now, it's nothing more than painful exchanges between you and him where little is resolved. I don't know how much longer you want to stay in this limbo state, but it's tearing you apart and, surely, there has to be an alternative to this emotional suffering. You asked him, "Maybe you could find someone you can love and be happy?" Let me throw that same question back to you. Couldn't you find someone who will make you happy and loves you? Perhaps I'm wrong, but by what you told me in this e-mail, if you were to tell him, "I've made a decision. I'm out of your life as of today", I think he'd wish you luck.