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"Time Out" Often Means It's Over
- By Miss Emily
- Published 12/2/2011
- Relationships - Teens
Dear Miss Emily,
I have been with my boyfriend for nearly a year. He has fit in well with my family, but with a few bumps in the road. Rrecently, things havent' been the same. I feel that somethings missing. I thought about ending the relationship or taking a break. I spoke to my boyfriend and asked him about taking a break, and he broke down in tears. It made me upset too. I don't know what to do -- wheater to come clean and tell him that it needs to end or...?
Please help.
------------------------------Miss Emily's advice-------------------------
To him, taking a break is the death knell to the relationship and, in this case, he might be right. But you can't stay with him out of pity, and he wouldn't want that if he were to be honest with himself. I am sure he's a perfectly wonderful boy, but that does not make a relationship work long term. You've been with him for nearly a year, and that should be enough time to know if you're truly in love with him. If "time out" is really what you think you need to get your feelings settled about him, push for it, and don't back down because you feel sorry for him. That only prolongs the inevitable. But if you're sure he's no longer the guy for you, end it. Matters of the heart are often painful, but humans get involved emotionally, and that means things can get messy a lot of the time.
I have been with my boyfriend for nearly a year. He has fit in well with my family, but with a few bumps in the road. Rrecently, things havent' been the same. I feel that somethings missing. I thought about ending the relationship or taking a break. I spoke to my boyfriend and asked him about taking a break, and he broke down in tears. It made me upset too. I don't know what to do -- wheater to come clean and tell him that it needs to end or...?
Please help.
------------------------------Miss Emily's advice-------------------------
To him, taking a break is the death knell to the relationship and, in this case, he might be right. But you can't stay with him out of pity, and he wouldn't want that if he were to be honest with himself. I am sure he's a perfectly wonderful boy, but that does not make a relationship work long term. You've been with him for nearly a year, and that should be enough time to know if you're truly in love with him. If "time out" is really what you think you need to get your feelings settled about him, push for it, and don't back down because you feel sorry for him. That only prolongs the inevitable. But if you're sure he's no longer the guy for you, end it. Matters of the heart are often painful, but humans get involved emotionally, and that means things can get messy a lot of the time.
