Dear Miss Emily:

Hi...I've been in a relationship with a girl I really like for 2 years. We both get along well with our families. The problem is, before we started going out she told me she was dating a married man who takes care of her, and her bills.  She said that, obviously, she couldn't marry him. Because of my feelings for her, I didn't mind, at first, thinking she'd ease out that relationship gradually. The problem is that it's starting to get to me, and I really don't know what to think or do anymore what do I do?

----------------------------Miss Emily's advice----------------------

I have to admire your ability to hang in there under these circumstances. Many a man would not like the fact his girlfriend was having an affair with a married man from the get-go. You didn't say what you wanted from this relationship, but if you want monogamy, now, and maybe marriage down the line, it seems pretty clear to me you would want her to end this affair. I think you might be afraid she would not be willing to do that, were you to ask. Make up your mind as to what you want from this relationship, and proceed from there.