Dear Miss Emily:

One morning, I put my heart on the line and kissed a friend I thought I liked and was rejected. I forced myself to move on from him but, a few weeks later, he confessed to me that he was just scared, before, to show his feelings. He asked me to be his girlfriend. I said yes -- but then I went home and was out of my mind for the next week trying to sort out my feelings. It didn't seem like I should have felt so stressed, but I eventually decided to give it a try. We've kissed and gone on dates, but we haven't really told anyone in our circle of friends yet and, sometimes, I find myself wondering if we stopped kissing, and holding hands, if the "relationship" could just go away and fade into oblivion. Because the thing is, before he asked me to be his grilfriend, I think I was falling in love with his best friend. And I can't shake the feeling that I still am.

-----------------------------Miss Emily's advice-------------------------

I think you know if you were to have a relationship with his best friend, your friendship with this guy could go out the window. Maybe that's worth it to you, but I just wanted to remind you of that. As well, you don't know if this "best friend" has an interest in you. I think you know, deep in your heart, if you have feelings for the guy you're dating or, in retrospect, you jumped too fast into a relationship. The fact he came back to you, and relieved you of your feelings of rejection, might have been the true impetus to say yes to dating him. I would tell him you're having mixed feelings about the relationship, and you'd like to have time to think about whether you want one, or not. It's your right, and it's early enough in the game to not have him implode, hopefully. You were brave enough to kiss him -- now use that bravery to be honest about your feelings to him. However, I would leave out your interest in his best friend. That is not a given, and you can decide what to do about that were it to be an option down the line.