Sister's Abusive Behavior
- By Miss Emily
- Published 11/21/2011
- General
Dear Miss Emily:
I don't know what to do about my sister. Right now, Im 16, and she's 19. This problem has been going on since Ive been in about 5th grade. She does a lot of things i don't like; one of which includes making me owe her money for the littlest things. She once made me owe her $200 for not saving a bowl of ice cream for her when my younger sister and I ate the last bits. I do have a job as a cashier making minimum wage, but I really think 200 bucks is way too much for a bowl of ice cream? i could've bought her 100 whole tubs to herself! Today, she just made me owe her $50 because I didn't throw away her trash she had from getting Jack in the Box. She came home before my parents did, and she left it here. She left after an hour or so, and i forgot to throw it away. My parents saw that she ordered fast food and was upset with her. i owe her 50 bucks now because I didn't help her throw it out. She's asking way to much. and I can't tell my parents because i know she's going to do something so much worse. She's physically abused me, before, and just recently stopped. i don't want it to start, again, and I also sort of feel like I shouldn't tell anyone (parent/ other adults), because its like im ruining the 'face' of our family. I dont want our family to seem like its a bad family to others. I really dont know what to do. I keep telling myself once she moves out, my problems will be over, but it seems like it'll never happen. i need advice please! Thank you so much for reading my rant!! i needed it!
----------------------------Miss Emily's advice-----------------------
What she's doing is extortion, and it will not stop until you say no to her and tell your parents about it. I don't know what your parents think you do with your money, but the kind of demands she's making is not only abusive and coercive, she's bleeding you dry. You have to tell your parents what she's been doing from day one, because you can't handle this alone. Your parents are supposed to be your protectors, and this has to stop now. This is not shame on the family, but a case of one sister who has sadistic tendencies. She will threaten you until your parents put a stop to it. It doesn't matter where she lives. She has power over you, and you have been her prisoner for far too long. Again, please go to your parents. This has to stop, and you need help from them to end this nightmare once and for all.
I don't know what to do about my sister. Right now, Im 16, and she's 19. This problem has been going on since Ive been in about 5th grade. She does a lot of things i don't like; one of which includes making me owe her money for the littlest things. She once made me owe her $200 for not saving a bowl of ice cream for her when my younger sister and I ate the last bits. I do have a job as a cashier making minimum wage, but I really think 200 bucks is way too much for a bowl of ice cream? i could've bought her 100 whole tubs to herself! Today, she just made me owe her $50 because I didn't throw away her trash she had from getting Jack in the Box. She came home before my parents did, and she left it here. She left after an hour or so, and i forgot to throw it away. My parents saw that she ordered fast food and was upset with her. i owe her 50 bucks now because I didn't help her throw it out. She's asking way to much. and I can't tell my parents because i know she's going to do something so much worse. She's physically abused me, before, and just recently stopped. i don't want it to start, again, and I also sort of feel like I shouldn't tell anyone (parent/ other adults), because its like im ruining the 'face' of our family. I dont want our family to seem like its a bad family to others. I really dont know what to do. I keep telling myself once she moves out, my problems will be over, but it seems like it'll never happen. i need advice please! Thank you so much for reading my rant!! i needed it!
----------------------------Miss Emily's advice-----------------------
What she's doing is extortion, and it will not stop until you say no to her and tell your parents about it. I don't know what your parents think you do with your money, but the kind of demands she's making is not only abusive and coercive, she's bleeding you dry. You have to tell your parents what she's been doing from day one, because you can't handle this alone. Your parents are supposed to be your protectors, and this has to stop now. This is not shame on the family, but a case of one sister who has sadistic tendencies. She will threaten you until your parents put a stop to it. It doesn't matter where she lives. She has power over you, and you have been her prisoner for far too long. Again, please go to your parents. This has to stop, and you need help from them to end this nightmare once and for all.
