My ex and I broke up because he lives too far away, and it was getting really hard. We both still love each other, and if I moved down to him it would probably work out -- but I kind of messed up. Something happened with me and his brother, and he recently found out about it. He's kind of mad but he still talks to me if I text him. He's really mad though, so it's not pleasant conversation. But in my defense, I was in a really bad place and very vulnerable and pissed at him. How do i get him back?
If
this happened with his brother while you and your ex were broken up, it
should have softened the blow, somewhat, but it's still his brother.
Now he feels his brother is equally acquainted with you on a
personal level as he was, and he doesn't like the image. He sees it as
betrayal, yet I wonder if his brother skated by without any problem. You
can't go back and erase the past. He has to let this go in order for him to trust that
if you and he were to get back together, nothing between you and his
brother will ever happen again. This isn't an uncommon story, but you
hit too close to home when you "hooked up" with his brother, and he may
not get past it. All you can do is ask for his forgiveness and, then,
the ball's in his court . . . because if he can't let this go, he will
bring it up to you, ad infinitum, every time you and he have
an issue. You can just imagine the first blow: "If you don't like it,
why don't you go back to my brother?" Don't rush this, please. Moving to
be with him, and that seems a long shot now, will not make this relationship
work a second time around if he holds a grudge.
