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Love Of His Life Said No To Date
- By Miss Emily
- Published 11/15/2011
- Relationships - Men
Dear Miss Emily:
Can I get your opinion or thoughts? I'm kinda needing help and advice. There's this girl I like, well, a girl I fell for and, just so you know, she broke my heart when I asked her out. At first she said yes, then she texted me saying it isn't going to work. But some random times, I reconnected with her a day around July, another in August, then the first day of school in September and the 9th and 10th of this month. We don't talk in person because she's still avoiding me from the day after I asked her out -- yet we talk through instant messenger in facebook and, well, I haven't talked to her in over 7 months. I recently did, through. Anyway, what I was wondering if it would be sweet leaving her a rose at her doorstep with a plain note saying thank you but making it anonymous. Do you think I should do that?The thank you is basically something I thought of because she helped me to not give up on something even if it breaks you. And reason why I want to do it on 11/11/11 is that when she and I were into each other, I remember her telling me she always makes a wish on the time of 11:11 everyday, and I thought doing this would be something special.
-----------------------------Miss Emily's advice--------------------
I'm so sorry this e-mail is late. I was out of town and had trouble keeping up on the huge influx of mail I get. I missed getting to you by 11/11/11! What did you decide to do? You know, when I get letters from advice seekers like you in the same circumstance, I tell them to try and not internalize someone saying no to them. It could be for a lot of reasons, and may have nothing to do with you. I know she said, "yes", at first, and then reneged, but you don't know enough about her to see this as rejection. She may have personal problems, fear, a past love she cannot let go, or something truly monumental that she struggles with each day. But my opinion on the 11/11 question is this: Not putting a name to it makes it an effort only you can appreciate, and someone could see you do it. If you were to write, in your occasional communication with her, "Hey, if you ever change your mind about going out on a date, let me know," that would be more than okay.
-----------------------------Miss Emily's advice--------------------
I'm so sorry this e-mail is late. I was out of town and had trouble keeping up on the huge influx of mail I get. I missed getting to you by 11/11/11! What did you decide to do? You know, when I get letters from advice seekers like you in the same circumstance, I tell them to try and not internalize someone saying no to them. It could be for a lot of reasons, and may have nothing to do with you. I know she said, "yes", at first, and then reneged, but you don't know enough about her to see this as rejection. She may have personal problems, fear, a past love she cannot let go, or something truly monumental that she struggles with each day. But my opinion on the 11/11 question is this: Not putting a name to it makes it an effort only you can appreciate, and someone could see you do it. If you were to write, in your occasional communication with her, "Hey, if you ever change your mind about going out on a date, let me know," that would be more than okay.
